I’ve been listening to Seth this morning. He is wise wise man. If you haven’t already, check out his blog.
He got me thinking.
What if failure was a means for discovery? What if we value it for the lessons it gives us – rather than an unpleasant result?
What if we lean in to it? Make failure desirable?
I have experienced failure many times enormously.
I’m possibly an expert.
One failure as a freshly graduated high school student was hitching my self-worth to my intelligence (or what I naively perceived as intelligence) and promptly failing all papers in my first year at university – putting a serious crack in my self-worth and leading me down an unforeseen path.
This took me quite a LOOOONG time to recover from, (my son would say LONG 1,000,000 – lol ).
But what if we were part of a culture that sees the positive side of failure. Uses it to deepen understanding? To deepen connection?
e.g. in my case: Why did you want to go to Uni? …Why do you value intelligence? …What else do you value?… What do you feel self worth is defined as? … etc is a path of discovery – unlike the other path I trod after that first year.
Why are we so keen to avoid failure when it’s a necessary part of creating something?
As humans we are born creators.
It’s in our DNA.
It’s one of the things that separates us from other species.
Brene Brown says ‘there is no innovation and creativity without failure. Period”.
When was the last time you failed? Can you shed a positive light on it?